"This face is truly the face of pro-life. He is a gift from our Heavenly Father, but he is also the product of a rape. Yes, my rape was a date rape. Some guy didn't hijack me in my car and rape me. I sometimes feel that it was worse. I trusted this person enough to go out on a date with him. Do I wish it wouldn't have happened? Sometimes, but am I glad that I chose the right decision? Yes!
Max Noah, my son, has been the hardest and easiest decision I have ever made. In one way, I had to face what happened to me and give up the lifestyle I thought I "needed" to be happy. My decision was also very easy. His life was an innocent life. He didn't choose to be conceived in the way he was. I had an amazing pregnancy due to the fact that I forgave his father, from afar, and surrounded myself with beautiful believers who poured Truth into my life. Yes, abortion would have been the "easy" fix to bandage up my broken, Godless life, but instead, I shallowed my pride, exposed my sin and came to Christ. I, not only, saved Max's life but he saved mine. I don't look at Max and think about that horrible night. I look into my sweet boy's eyes and see hope and future. God wanted this miracle on this earth. Yes, every rape and situation is different, but there are other options. Kissing my son to sleep at night, teaching him how to speak, taking him to the park are all things I wouldn't have had the pleasure to do if I would have picked the "easy" way out.
I want to apologize to Max and to The Lord daily for allowing abortion to cross my mind. Being a single mom is hard. I wish our circumstances were different, but God knows what we need and blesses us daily. This plan wasn't ideal, but God never forsakes us and we are never alone.
"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6 NIV)"
*Note: Less than 2% of abortions are from rape situations. Carly is one of a few friends I know who have chosen life when finding out they were pregnant after being raped. I am so proud of these beautiful women and that they chose life going through such a heartbreaking time. Their children are beautiful and I've witnessed how, although it's been hard, they truly see their child as a gift.
I've also met women who chose abortion from rape and have shared with me that they now see how the abortion didn't help fix or heal anything, but only put them into further depression, guilt, and shame. They have told me that the rape was someone doing something terrible to them, but that the abortion was them doing something terrible to their child. I praise God that his grace and love abounds and that there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus, and like Carly shared, that our God never leaves us nor forsakes us.
I am praying that women who have been raped and chosen either life or abortion would find healing, love, and hope. Our church has an incredible ministry called Shelter from the Storm if rape is apart of your story, and also has a ministry called Someone Cares if abortion is. I pray that women wouldn't feel like they have to keep these things secret and "deal with it on their own", but be surrounded by other women who have been in the same situation and can help one another. Here are links to these ministries:
Shelter from the Storm
Someone Cares
Thank you Carly for sharing your story. I love that our God can take something so tragic and make something beautiful- YOU and precious Max Noah.